Let's face it. In many ways women are easy to buy for. Most of
us love the traditional romantic gifts including:
Chocolates Flowers Jewelry Lingerie Perfume Candles Soft Toys
Clothes
But on the other hand we're difficult to buy for. We know what
we like, and we don't want to settle for less. We pay attention
to little things, so we appreciate it when you give us a gift in
our favorite color, or one that has special meaning.
We love romantic gestures, like poetry, love letters and
romantic music. Men often consider us gullible when they see us
being 'taken in' by another man's soft words and candlelight
dinners. The truth is, we often know when we're being played,
but we can't help responding to the gesture. We'd like it to be
sincere so we convince ourselves that it is. And occasionally,
the manipulative male becomes a victim of his own techniques and
falls for the woman he set out to victimize.
But falling for romantic gestures isn't a sign of weakness. A
woman can muster huge wells of strength and resourcefulness when
the situation calls for it. Some women get addicted to this
power and let go of the so-called feminine side of their
natures. Others realize that you can have both.
So what it's really about is knowing the woman that you're
buying for. You know you're in trouble when you make
generalizations like, "Women love flowers" or "I'm sure she'd
like a box of chocolates for her birthday". She may prefer some
clay for her sculptures or some new gardening tools. Romance is
more about the care that went into choosing the gift rather than
the gift itself.
Here's a story that illustrates this point:
Barbara and her husband John often talked about their pasts,
including their experiences as young children. In the course of
one particular conversation, Barbara described a beautiful
old-fashioned pencil case her mother gave her when she first
started school. She hadn't thought about the case in years, but
at the time it was one of her most treasured possessions.
Six months later, John was browsing in a specialty store when he
came across a pencil case that matched Barbara's description. He
immediately bought it and presented it to her that night.
Barbara was delighted with his gift and amazed that John had
recalled their conversation. To her the gift was magical. It
felt as if John had restored a little piece of her childhood.
People give you clues about what they want continuously in their
daily conversation. It's up to you to pay attention and surprise
them later with a well-chosen gift. This type of thoughtfulness
works wonders in a relationship.
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