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Teen Sex, Love And Being Used |
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Dan Celentano |
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A number of years ago I interviewed 8 teenage girls about the failed relationships they had with their boyfriends and the impact it had on their lives. Each girl had a baby by their “boyfriend” and each one, without exception, said two things that I found interesting. First, each said “I didn’t really want to have sex, but my boyfriend said that if I loved him, I’d have sex with him. I really I thought my boyfriend loved me for me. Later though, I found out that this wasn’t true.” (Seven of the eight girls never saw their boyfriends again after the baby came.) Then I asked the following question: “If your boyfriend loved you as much as he said he did, don’t you think he would have respected your decision not to have sex? I mean wouldn’t this kind of respect for you as a person be more of an indication of his love than just jumping into bed with you?” There was an errie silence for a moment. Then one of the girls spoke up; “I don’t know how he would have reacted if I said “no.” I would hope he would have respected me for my decision, but I don’t know.”
The second thing they all said was this : “I thought the baby I was going to have would give me the love and attention I never got at home.” This brings up a question : Could many of the sexually active teenagers today be searching for the love they never received at home? I’m not sure. However, I do know this: Looking for love with all the wrong people won’t fill the desire a person has to be loved. Finding someone who respects you for WHO YOU ARE will. In order to do this however, you have to respect yourself first.
Maybe their is some truth to the saying that "a person will often date someone who is a reflection of that indivuals self worth."
A 14 year old girl sent me an e mail about her experiences with sex and asked me if I would post it on my web site to warn other girls. You can read it at choicesforteens.com. Great summary to this article.
Dan Celentano has worked with a variety of at risk kids for close to
30 years. He is author of a book for teenagers entitled
Ten Essential Facts of Life Every Teenager Should
Know ( see www.teenage-book.com ), and gives advice to teenagers
on his web site www.choicesforteens.com In addition to this, Mr.
Celentano speaks to high school students on various issues having to
do with teenagers. Currently Dan is preparing for his next project
which is working with blind children on his ranch.
Dan Celentano is available for freelance writing and can be contacted
at ranch@copper.net.
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