Solving child behavior and child discipline problems
Dr. Noel Swanson..
The rule of the thumb is that rewards work better than punishments in establishing child discipline. Parents need to lay more stress on positive reinforcement rather than punishment for bad behavior. Many people view discipline as a punishment system but that is not necessarily so. Indeed, you can eliminate punishment altogether if you reward good behavior. Children, no matter how big they are, always seek parental approval. Punishment, on the other hand, makes them defiant, stubborn and obstinate.
Sure, it might work for you for a little while, but then you find your children laughing at you every time you say ?one more time and I'll (insert child disciplinary method)?. Well, you aren't the first parent to experience this and not only does it ruin consistency, it creates a negative environment in the home.
You can't afford to neglect child discipline; but punishment tactics should be avoided as far as possible; they don't work. Try a reward system instead. Rewards don't have to be tangible; a nod of approval, a word of praise and a warm hug can work wonders. You can encourage positive children's behavior by positive reinforcement. It makes you and your child feel good. And, it saves time on the yelling.
Don't know where to start with establishing a reward system? Here are some parenting help steps to help you get started.
* Parents should sit down and discuss discipline problems threadbare. Together you should set up a list of child behavior actions and rewards, for example, cleaning up the bedroom without having to be reminded means an extra hour of TV on the weekend.
2. The next step is to sit down with your children, if they are old enough, and explain the system. Remember to engage older children in this type of routine change. It will make it run smoothly and avoid any child behavior problems. If they feel they are contributing to the household decision making process they will be more willing to cooperate. Younger children listen to older siblings more than they obey orders from parents. They are the second-rung management, you see.
3. Follow through and keep a record. Keeping track of a lot of activities can be hard to do. Use the chart to keep track of where each child stands. This is also a visual reinforcement.
Following these three steps will help you a great deal in putting up an effective and rewarding system in your home. By rewarding good child behavior, you set a positive foundation for self-esteem. It is the best way to accomplish child discipline tasks.
More information on how to solve http://www.good-child-guide.com/child-behavior-problems-2) children's behavioral problems can be found on Dr. Noel Swanson's website, which is all about solving http://www.good-child-guide.com/ Child Behavior Problems. Make sure you get his FREE newsletter and 1 hour audio too.
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