Why You Need to RUN AWAY When He is Pursuing You!
Sarah Love
Dating, boiled down, is a question of being able to make someone want something. How to make someone want something is not something we often think about, however, it is something we NEED to think about if you really want to make attraction WORK for you.
Most of us are not born salespeople. If we want someone to want something, we don't sit there and tell someone how awesome it is, convincing them that they need it. You don't offer it to them for free, certainly, because you know how much you could "get out of it."
Think about a diamond for a moment. What makes a diamond valuable? Are they a dime a dozen? No. They are RARE. Their value lies in the act that they are not easily come by, and therefore, everyone wants one.
The fact is, you ARE a diamond. In order to keep yourself attractive and interesting to men, you have to think of yourself as valuable, rare and sought after. Think about it in terms of some precious item that you just HAD to have. Once you get it - you think it's awesome for a few days, and then over time, it begins to lose interest. You have been satisfied; therefore, you are not making an EFFORT anymore to get it.
Once the anticipation is gone, unless there is true substance to a relationship, the attraction fades as well. If you think about this in terms of a relationship with a man, if you let him catch you before the relationship has really begun, then the attraction will soon perish as well.
If you want to create attraction for a guy, you have to get used to the idea of never being tamed, ensnared, or owned in any way. This is totally counterintuitive for a lot of women, because what we want to say is "I'm yours!" For the sake of attraction, though, you cannot let this happen too early or you will not be his for long.
So how do you DO this? Well, start with the small things. First and foremost - don't have SEX with him until you are SURE a relationship has developed. Keep in mind that for a man - having sex does not mean he loves you or is in a "relationship" with you by any means. So do not give it up until you have what you want from him.
Second, do things like end a great conversation a little early. Say you are having a GREAT talk with him, and you are both into it. Instead of continuing on, though, you make an excuse to have to go, and hang up the phone. This leaves him wanting MORE, thinking about you and eager to talk to you the next time.
Another thing that you can do is to not be available when calls. Wait a couple hours to call him back, or if you can stand it, until the next day. You can even carry that over to when he asks you for date. Don't settle for the first date he tells you. If he suggests you go out on Thursday, tell him y9ou are busy that night, but how about Saturday instead? Do you see what I mean here?
Scarcity adds value - and you are a valuable treasure. The great thing is, these tactics can be used to attract a man in the beginning, but they can also be used to keep the attraction in the relationship alive and blooming after the newness has worn off.
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