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Get Your Ex Back - How To Know If You Are Pushing Or Pulling |
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Get Your Ex Back - How To Know If Your Are Pushing Or Pulling
Claire Tourney
Are you trying desperately to get your ex back? Well it's important to understand that the emotional pain that you are experiencing could be making your thinking pretty muddled right now. If you don't want to keep blundering along and make it much less likely that you will get your ex back you must step back and honestly evaluate how you have handled the break-up situation so far. You don't want to keep making things worse and push your ex even further away from you instead putting the odds in your favor that you will get your ex back.
Something seems to happen to people who feel like they have lost someone or something they desperately want to get back, they allow their emotions to take over and don't realize that desperation sets in. Soon you are exhibiting the push away behaviors that make it much harder to get your ex to come back to you.
Begging or pleading with your ex to come back to you will only push them further and further away from you.. You probably think that if they really know how much you love them and need them they will finally get it and come flying back into your open arms. Not likely - you might find that you have pushed them into someone else's waiting arms instead!
You need to regain your dignity here. Just think of all the classic movie scenes where you watched the ex boyfriend or ex girlfriend character desperately trying to win their lover back with needy declarations of undying love, or convince the ex of their attempts to change, or make it up to them for whatever they thought they did wrong.
As you sat in the theater and watched a scene like that weren't you usually cringing inside with embarrassment for the poor man or woman that was exhibiting such humiliating behavior and didn't even realize it? Or even if they were aware of it they seemed powerless to stop themselves. You know as you watch that scene that our poor suffering movie character is ruining any chance they might have of getting back their ex.
Can you see yourself in that particular movie scene that just ran through your mind? Are you doing any of those things that keep pushing your ex away and make you feel worse and worse about yourself even though you think you can't help yourself?
You're sure that if you can just convince your them of your love you will win your ex girlfriend or ex boyfriend back, so you are determined to do anything it takes, even move mountains to get them to see how much you love them and need them. Never mind that you are building mountains between you and your ex instead. Or perhaps you think that yours is a true love and true love conquers all - wrong again! True love is the operative word here. Or perhaps we can use the word real love instead.
Real love isn't needy or desperate. It's confident enough to allow your ex to have the space they need right now to breath and get a handle on their emotions before you make your next move. And if you make your next move the right one you will greatly increase your chances of winning your ex back instead of continuing to push them away from you.
Now don't give up if you feel you've messed things up too much - it's never too late! Take that step back and give it a break. Use the time wisely to get yourself together and start learning a SMARTER WAY to get your ex back.
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Article: Get Your Ex Back - How To Know If You Are Pushing Or Pulling
Author: Claire Tourney
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