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A Change In Strategy Can Help You Get The Guy! |
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A Change In Strategy Can Help You Get The Guy!
Sarah Love
People tend to develop strategies which they use to deal with situations where fear or rejection is a risk. Some people whine, wheedle or try using reverse psychology. Others try to act like what they want is no big deal. Most of the time, however, these strategies are seen through - and fail.
Women do the same things, and many times subconsciously. Sometimes these strategies do work for a little while, but so many times, they do not. They end up having the opposite effect and scare the man off.
One such strategy that women use is actually bribery. It is not bribery like you typically think of it, but rather bribery where the woman tried to be since, helpful and basically indispensible to the man so that he will begin to fall in love with her and need her.
The second strategy women use is called CONVINCING. This is where you tell a man how you feel about him in order to try to coerce him into proclaiming the same kind of love for you. You can also do this by asking him leading questions, trying to get him to profess his love for you. More than likely - convincing him will only drive him away.
The last common strategy women use is - sex. Many women will have sex with a man in order to create that "immediate relationship". Women think that having sex means they are IN the relationship. However, men do NOT think that way. Sex does not equal love or commitment to most men, so it just simply does not work.
So exactly why is it that these strategies do not work, when they seem so intuitive to do? I mean, why wouldn't you be nice and do things for someone you want to attract? Why wouldn't you try to get him to talk to you about his feelings for you, or even have sex with you in order to make his realize those feelings?
Unfortunately, these actions broadcast to a man in a much more subtle way than words - that you are afraid and possibly needy or frantic.
That is totally opposite of what you were trying to accomplish, isn't it? But that is what he sees when he sees these kinds of actions. And that is NOT attractive.
In that case - what DOES create attraction with a man? The right attitude is certainly something that can lend to your appeal. Instead of appearing needy or devious - try presenting an attitude of worth, dignity and maturity to him. Show him that you expect his respect, and that you expect to respect him as well.
You can also try showing him that you are comfortable with his friendships with his buddies and would not be a jealous, immature or clingy partner. You can show him that you are mature and your own woman - not a follower or bystander.
So begin the transformation of your love life by transforming your outlook and attitude, and see just what a smart, healthy, attractive and worthwhile woman like yourself can accomplish with such a small change.
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Author: Sarah Love
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