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Get Back With Your Ex - Why A Hungry Dog Doesn't Get Fed! |
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Get Back With Your Ex - Why A Hungry Dog Doesn't Get Fed!
Claire Tourney
Perhaps you've heard the proverbial old saw about "Why A Hungry Dog Doesn't Get Fed". The logic behind this phrase is important for you to understand right now if you are serious about wanting to get your ex girlfriend, boyfriend, husband or wife back in your life and you have been acting a little needy or desperate.
Think about what you would do if a hungry dog showed up at your door? No matter how sympathetic you feel towards the dog you shoo it away because you know if you feed it you will be stuck with that dog hanging around looking for a free meal and becoming a nuisance. So you pick up the phone and call the Humane Society or the Pound instead.
But what happens if instead of a mangy mutt, a handsome well fed and groomed dog with a nice shiny collar happens to show up at your door? You can't help but admire that dog and you know it doesn't need you to feed it; it's obviously well taken care of and probably just lost or wandering around checking out the neighborhood.
So you feel kind of relieved, perhaps even contemplate how nice it would be to have a dog like that. Do you get the metaphor here? You don't want to be the "needy dog" to your ex, you want to be the handsome, well taken care of dog instead.
Being desperate and needy by continually trying to contact your ex after the break up and begging or pleading with them to get back together with you only makes you seem like the "needy dog" to your ex and this will turn them off even more.
As you can see this behavior does not make you the least bit attractive to your ex, but the other thing you need to realize is that people tend to want that they can't have and if you are showing up at their door all the time looking for an emotional handout you certainly aren't that handsome dog that they admired but that's just out of their reach.
You see people like people who like themselves, who are confident and emotionally secure and who don't "need" anyone to make them happy.
So if you are serious about wanting to win back your lost love, give them some space for awhile while you get your head on straight and cut loose the desperate, needy behaviors.
Then you'll be ready to start planning a SMARTER strategy to get back with your ex.
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Article: Get Back With Your Ex - Why A Hungry Dog Doesn't Get Fed!
Author: Claire Tourney
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