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Getting Your Ex Back - 10 Common Break Blunders To Avoid |
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Getting Your Ex Back - 10 Common Break Blunders To Avoid
Claire Tourney
No matter how good your intentions of wanting to stop your break up and win your ex back are, if you are committing some of these common break up blunders you will actually be hurting your chances of winning your lost love back.
Are you guilty of committing any of these ten break up blunders?
1. Telling your ex that they are making a huge mistake. This won't convince your ex to change their mind, they will only be more relieved that they decided to break up with you in the first place.
3. Calling too soon after the break up. Your ex has decided to break up with you and it should be clear enough that they need their space right now and the last thing they want is to hear from you.
3. Drunk Dialing. You may be drowning your sorrows and the alcohol is intensifying your emotional state so you keep calling and trying to get your ex to talk to you.... See #2
4. Leaving tons of email and voice mail messages.... Again - see # 2
5. Telling your ex how depressed, sad or lonely you have been since the break up. You may think this will appeal to your ex's sympathetic nature but instead, you are saddling them with your emotions and overwhelming them with your neediness. And this is actually a manipulative behavior, however unintentional, which can deliver a real sledge blow to the relationship.
6. Continuing to argue about the break up and bring up past disagreements and squabbles. Perhaps you manage to get your ex's attention and get them talking to you. Do you think this is the best use of your time? You really are being fairly immature and petty and this isn't going to get you what you want. It will only keep you stuck in the past instead.
7. Professing your undying love over and over. Even if you think that they don't understand how much you really love them, obviously that is not the issue right now or they wouldn't have left. It's time to take a different perspective and analyze what went wrong with the relationship and what you could do better instead of thinking that true love will conquer all.
8. Apologizing over and over and over again. Now maybe you did something wrong, perhaps even really blew it by cheating or breaking a big promise. An apology is in order, but you have to know the right way to make an effective apology and rarely anyone knows how to do this. You also don't want to make the mistake of apologizing too soon. And if you didn't do something that warrants an apology, then you are compromising yourself and this isn't an attractive trait in anybody.
9. Trying to make your ex jealous. Well, this may work initially for some psychological reasons, and maybe a little bit won't hurt as people tend to want what they can't have. But it still won't change the reasons for the break up in the first place and if all you are depending on is manipulative tactics to try and win your ex back you will end up with a pretty twisted relationship that will be even harder to keep going for the long term.
10. Pleading with your ex to take you back. The big secret here is this: people like people who like themselves, who are strong and emotionally secure enough not to want someone back so much that they will sacrifice their self dignity by begging.
Now you know what common blunders you need to avoid if you want to have the best chance of winning back your ex boyfriend, girlfriend, wife or husband. So start to analyze what went wrong with the relationship and what you need to change and then you are ready to make some SMARTER moves to get your ex back.
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