It's All in the Attitude
Kenrick Cleveland
I AM YOUR ATTITUDE! I AM YOUR MASTER. I can make you rise or fall. I can make you a success or failure. I can work for or against you. I control your feelings and actions. I can make your heart sing with happiness. I can make you wretched, dejected, or morbid. I can make you angry and resentful. I can make you lonely, discouraged or depressed. I can make you sick, listless. I can be a shackle, heavy and burdensome. I can be a prism's hue, dancing bright and colorful. I can be nurtured and grown to be beautiful. I can never be removed, only replaced. I AM YOUR ATTITUDE! (author unknown)
It's human nature to have low points -- moments of doubt, or sadness, or feeling down, or road rage. We all have the spectrum of emotions bliss to sorrow, joy to misery. It's key to remember that all emotions are choices.
We choose to have and to hold the thoughts and emotions we experience every day. And with that choice comes a responsibility. When someone cuts us off in traffic or is wildly inconsiderate, we can either give them the horn (or the finger) and follow them at an uncomfortably close range, or we can let it go and not allow it to stick.
This, admittedly, can be very difficult. It's a crowded world. There are people who have no manners, who couldn't care any less that you have been inconvenienced by their rudeness. And yet, that's the way things will remain whether you choose to get angry and filled with rage, or whether you let it slip right off you like water slips off a duck.
I'm not saying there's no place for confrontation in life, but there is a time and place for everything and not every situation requires that level of intensity. If someone "steals" your parking spot, you can make a big deal out of it, or you can go find another one.
Even I have moments which are not ideal. I've come to realize, however, that these down times are totally unproductive and I have learned to reorient myself by enlarging the frame through which I'm viewing any given situation.
I've recently become aware of a technique that helps to remove you from the negative mindsets we can sometimes get in and prevent them from keeping us stuck. Here's what you do: Smile. That's it. Putting a smile on your face, a wide grin, really getting your dimples involved, this tricks yourself into feeling better. Don't take my word for it, try it. You're telling your unconscious that you are choosing not to dwell on the negative.
You are becoming the master of your attitude. Think of the people that are inconsiderate or rude, not as people who are trying to screw up your day, but as people who are testing your resolve to have a good attitude.
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