Your Partner an Alcoholic?...A Short Guide To Get Them Sober
Ed Philips
Are you married to an alcoholic? Is your husband/wife a different person when they drink? Are you tired of the Dr. Jeckyl and Mr. Hyde Behavior? Are you at your wits end and just can't take it anymore? What can you do?Stop trying to get your husband/wife to stop drinking.
No matter how much you nag and complain at them to stop drinking, it is not going to do a bit of good. I know, it sounds backwards, but when you're emotionally stressed out, it will be more difficult to help your loved one. You have no verbal power over the alcoholic. What you do is have control over is your actions. What you do and say to the alcoholic will have a direct effect on whether or not they will continue drinking or not.
Always keep one thing very clear in your mind that you are trying to help out the person you fell in love with and not that alcoholic you see now. When they have had a few drinks and feeling a bit provocative, make sure you don't fall into the trap and just ignore them. You must keep this up to the point that they know that they can't win any longer and hopefully realise themselves that something is up.
I guarantee you that they will be extremely persistent and will try everything in their power to break you down, but remain firm. Avoid confrontation at all times by going into a different room, going out for a walk or just putting on some headphones and listening to some music. You are the key to this and only you have the power to make them really see the problems they have.
The really sad fact about this kind of relationship is that the non-drinker ends up being as mentally and emotionally ill as the one that drinks. You should see then how important it really is that the non-drinker sets their own boundaries to what they are prepared tp put up with while their partner is under the influence of alcohol.
Whatever you do, dont allow them to see that their behaviour is affecting you as their whole ploy is to irritate you, so make sure you don't give them that satisfaction. When they do get into a state turn your back on them and try and see right through them to the person you used to know and love.
Their addictive behaviour should not be supported by you in any way including assistance to get into bed. You should not allow them to drive while drunk and don't let them force you into doing anything to help them while drunk. Never buy alcohol for them and definitely don't do anything special for them.
When they are sober you need to do the exact opposite(except buying booze), and tell them just how much they mean to you and that you are concerned about their health. Tell them or remind them of the terrible things that you and the rest of the family have to support while they are drunk as they really do need reminding.
This is very important when you are living with an alcoholic and this is how you heal yourself from the abuses of the alcoholic. You are not alone and there are some many stories to be found of other peoples experiences at the blog on stopdrinkingadvice.org and you will soon realise that things can change and life can get better.
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