Getting Your Ex Girlfriend Back-Sympathy Or Real Love?
Claire Tourney
During the intense emotional upheaval of a relationship break up it can be hard to keep your emotional balance. And if you tend to be a more melancholy type of person it can be easy to sink into depression and self pity.
Sometimes this can lead to a secret hope that perhaps your ex girlfriend will feel sorry for you and come back to you and then you will be happy again.
It may seem easier to settle for sympathy instead of love when you are feeling this way and you may succeed in getting your ex girlfriend's attention for awhile, women in general have a tendency to want to rescue and help when they see someone hurting and in emotional pain.
But think about why this will backfire on you in the long run. In effect you are saddling your ex girlfriend with your emotional pain, and because women are usually more sensitive and nurturing she may come back to you just to save you from hurting so bad, but this doesn't lay the foundation for a good relationship, you are planting the seeds for a very dysfunctional, co-dependent type of relationship instead. A relationship that will only cause both of you a lot of unhappiness in the future.
And even if you aren't consciously aware that you are doing it this falls under the category of manipulative behaviors - a serious relationship killer. You might succeed in getting your ex girlfriend to feel sorry for you and decide to come back, but would you rather have pity or real love?
Looking for sympathy instead of real love may get your ex girlfriend's attention for awhile, but in the end you will only make things worse. You deserve more, and if you don't think so then you need to find ways to boost your confidence and opinion of yourself.
If you are really serious about getting your ex girlfriend back you need to understand that you just cannot attract someone's love when you are being clingy, desperate and emotionally needy.
Instead it's important to take time now and work on yourself. Do things that make you feel better and stronger and help you find a sense of joy and not only will you start liking yourself more but you will also become more attractive to your ex. Then you are ready to begin planning a SMARTER strategy for getting your ex girlfriend back.
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