You have done this if you have ever been told "I value our friendship too much to date you." From a girl you were friends with, and tried to take it to the next level or be romantic with.
When you heard this you probably thought to yourself "That is such bull, you are supposed to be friends with the person you are dating." And you are 100% right.
In addition women want to be with a man that is going to treat her well. You could have been that man but you blew it because you were too nice. However, this is a very common mistake and every man has made it.
The problem is when you act this way it is often seen as pathetic, wimpy, and insecure. Women do not want to be with a man that displays these characteristics. Instead they are looking to be with confident, secure, strong, and independent men.
You can portray this and avoid being seen as too nice by;
1. When meeting women do not give her any compliments.
2. Do not hold the door open for her
3. Go out of your way to tease or make fun (when and where appropriate)
4. Don't always "be there"
5. Take it to the "next level or get romantic" before you can get categorized as too good of a friend.
Don't take this the wrong way because I am by no means suggesting you treat women poorly. However, when you are seen as too nice it often kills any potential interest. Instead you should focus your effort on the conversation and your interaction with her to create attraction.
While women do want to be treated well they want to be treated like an equal first. You can treat her like a queen once you are in a relationship, however if you treat her that well initially she is not likely to be interested in your for long.
During your interactions if you are in doubt, go against your gut. If you are anything like me you are naturally a nice person, thus go against your instinct. Don't be mean and don't insult her, just don't apologize, compliment, or try and be chivalrous (holding doors open, apologizing for stepping on her foot). You can, but only once you are in a relationship with her will she appreciate it and think of you as sweet for doing it.
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