Your Second Date; The Dating Sweet Spot

As much as I love first dates, I'm so over them. All that build up, all that pressure, the uncomfortable footwear; it's all a big fuss over what is really just one night of your life. There are literally billions of articles written about first dates, and yet I don't think it is the most important date.

It's definitely special; this is where first impressions are made and hopefully the first sparks fly. And the legendary third date is where, according to tradition, you let your new sweetie see your sexy under things. Of course, nowadays it's altogether possible that that magic moment happened at any time, from pre-first date until your wedding night. But still, I think we all continue to get the third date rush.

The date that comes in between one and three (that would be number two!) really doesn't get the attention it deserves. In my opinion, the second date is where you discover the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow. First date jitters are a memory; you're more relaxed and less nervous than the first time around. More importantly, even though there is a mutual attraction, the overwhelming thoughts of sex are usually on the back burner. The newness of it all though make this date exciting!

The second date hits the sweet spot. To make sure that you are making the most of this special and underrated event, here's a handy checklist:

Listen, a lot

First of all, relax and be prepared to listen. You obviously did well on the first date or you wouldn't be here for a second date. So settles your nerves and put your brain back in gear. You need to focus less on making yourself look good and focus more on being genuinely interested in the other person. Listen, and take the information you're given to heart. Allow it to make the person across from you become more complete.

Flirt it up

This is the time to flirt it up, just don't get too serious about it. Why do you need to flirt it up on the second date? Because too often people allow themselves to slip into "friend" mode. So you'd better be creating some sexual undertones otherwise your date will get the wrong impression.

If you want your date to believe that all you want is friendship, good enough. But I'm guessing you don't; so flirt it up and make your intentions clear.

Let go of your preconceptions

Boxes, as in preconceived notions; about this person, this "maybe" relationship and even yourself. You've only been out together once, so now is not the time to make assumptions. The fact is that you don't know who this person is yet, nor do you know how they perceive you. It's way too soon to put this relationship into a neatly labeled box.

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