Okay, so it is Saturday night, and instead of having a flirting good time with a gorgeous date you are sitting at home browsing Internet dating profiles. And cursing your luck, or rather the lack of it. Not to mention the whole moping around thing, kind of like when you wanted that little hot new outfit but could not afford it.
Sound like someone you know? Okay, yeah, it is you. And you know what? It is time to cut it out. Moping around about the fact that you are not being wined and dined solves nothing. It is time for an attitude adjustment, but do not worry, it is probably an easy fix. Read on for some tips to get you back on your way to make-out town.
Single Situation #1: You Are Waiting instead of Dating
Um, hello? You so better not be sitting at home reading this article on a Saturday night. Because that means you are at home, alone, on a weekend night. Not having a date is absolutely no excuse for not having a good time. Not to mention, if you get all reclusive until someone asks you out, how are you going to meet those people?
You need to dress for social success, just like you dress for career success. In other words, dress for the social present you want because no one wants to be with someone who is boring. Time to get your butt up from the couch, put on something hot, and get out there! Let your friends be your date and someone is bound to notice that you are the pick of the party. Who knows, the next time you go out, you might be able to dress up for someone specific.
Single Scenario 2: You Are Not Just Playing Hard to Get
Survival in the modern day dating jungle includes a little social strategizing and emotional game playing. It is not only allowed, it is advisable. Consciously deciding to be a bit cool and aloof instead of easy and over eager is part and parcel of the dating world.
However, if you have been playing the hard-to-get role for long enough, and strictly enough, there is a chance that it stops being a game and starts being who you are; you want to be coy, not aloof and disinterested.
Okay, so you do not throw yourself at every person who shows you some attention. That is playing it cool. On the other hand, if you are consistently acting uninterested, then guess what? People will actually think that you REALLY are not interested at all. And the game will be over before it even has a chance to begin.
Single Scene 3: You Already Know it All
Yes, look at you, little miss discernment: you think you have got boys figured out the minute you look at them. Five minutes of conversation and you could write a book on their innermost psychological workings. And with that oh-so-superior knowledge of the male mind, you receive and write off date requests left and right, on the basis that you already know they are not for you. I cannot tell you how many people are like this.
If this is you, chances are you are getting off on your own supposed people-reading genius enough to make up for the fact that this little skill is likely keeping you from genuinely becoming interested in anyone. Your lack of a date is not (as I am sure you are so fond of claiming) because there are no good ones out there. It's because you dismiss people before they ever have a chance to wow you.
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