Dating Advice - One cannot take too much effort in preparing a
profile. It is something that should be viewed in all
seriousness. Please do not treat the subject lightly. Imagine
that you are preparing for a job; won't you spend a lot of time
getting your resume ready?
Well, most of us take up jobs for how long, four or five years?
And how about a relationship, definitely we do not embark on a
relationship with the expectation that it would last for just a
couple of years.
We have to understand that a relationship is really worth much
more than a job, because it is probably the most important
decision in your life. So now let us discuss ways in which you
can spruce up your profile.
You can of course get a professional to do the job for you since
it saves you the effort. You may have to dish out a small amount
of course, but it could be worth it. There are many people who
have qualms about including a picture in the profile. Well, I
don't want to press the issue. It certainly does look better to
have a picture in your profile, but due to privacy issues you
can refrain from including a picture.
The best thing you could do is once you are comfortable chatting
with a person and are convinced that this person does not have
any devious intentions, you could send your picture over as an
attachment or a file. But this, too, is best done a mutual
exchange basis. It would be unfair if you know what the other
person looks like but the other person is kept in the dark and
vice versa.
Dating Advice - The Face In The Mirror
Now, coming to the picture as such, if you are sending over a
picture of yourself, for heavens sake, send over a decent
picture. It should be a recent one and please do not make any
compromises about the quality. Get a professional to do the job
for you and with the digital techniques of today, they can do a
very impressive job.
At the same time do work on your expression before the
photograph is taken. Stand in front of your mirror and try out
various expressions till you get something that you think is the
best for you. And remember that it has to be a picture of you
smiling. You should not have the classic hang dog expression, or
the "butter-will-not-melt-in-my-mouth expression". Smile, it
costs you nothing and it really lights up a person's face.
Now, the first thing that you should do is take out a pencil and
paper and write down the raw details about yourself. By raw
details we are referring to things like you age, your height and
your weight.
This is the skeleton of which we are going to work on. And when
we have added enough flesh and blood to this back bone, why even
you will be impressed by your profile! But first let us steer
clear of certain pit falls into which most people fall.
Dating Advice - The Modesty Pitfall
Most of us have been trained to be very modest. When it comes to
saying something good about our selves we feel very queasy about
blowing our own trumpet. Right, no body is asking you to do any
trumpet blowing but facts have to be stated as facts.
If you are a music lover and have a good voice too, I can't see
why you can't put it down like that itself. Why can't you
declare simply without sounding very proud that you have good
voice? A pointer that you could bear in mind would be to add
something like, "My friends think that I sing rather well."
There now, you can't feel too bad about something as simple as
that. It is as good as saying "some people think that I sing
well, but it is for you to decide whether I have a good voice or
not." Similar statements that you can work on and even add are
given below.
"Lots of people appreciate my cooking." "I am no Rembrandt, but
I enjoy painting." "I like decorating, and many of my friends
think that my tastes are not too bad." So go ahead, if you
really have a talent, you might as well as let others know about
it, after all a talented person would any way like to be
appreciated by a partner.
While we are talking about modesty, there is one question that I
want to address right now. It is something that all of us are
familiar with. If you have chatted with a stranger with whom you
are trying to build a rapport you must have been confronted with
the question before. The question is "what do you look like?'
I have often wondered about the sense of this question. The best
answers that I could come up with are "I look like a cross
between an orangutan and a Tasmanian devil" or "I have my
mothers teeth, my fathers nose, my uncle's eyes and my
roommates' shoes."
But of course we cannot give such answers which funny though
they might sound, might just rub the person in the wrong way.
What the person actually means is, "are you good looking or
not?"
Dating Advice - A very tricky question indeed! How can you
answer such a question with out sounding either super modest or
extremely vain? The answer to that is not to tell them the
answer directly. You can say something like:
"I am as fresh as peppermint." "I look like a bunch of fresh
lilies." "I have the appeal of a bowl of fresh fruit." If the
person still does not take the hint, then give them a detailed
description of every inch and let he or she decide for himself
or herself.
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