Kids will usually go against whatever their parents say and if they have the chance, they will even say something silly to provoke their parents. So what if your son calls you "poopyhead" after you told him that he is to clean his room right away, what will you do?
If a child calls his parent a "poopyhead," most will demand an apology right there and then. Some who find it annoying will send their kids to the time-out area and give them the time out. For stricter parents, spanking may be the best reminder for kids to respect their parents.
But there a few parents who simply take the silly comment and turn it around into something positive. Instead of getting annoyed, they will say "Shhh! Don't tell anyone my secret name. The enemy might hear you."
Instead of getting angered by that silly name, creative parents will tell their kids "Shhh! Not so loud. You don't want the enemy to know my secret name." By saying this, the parent successfully breaks the tension between him and his child while strengthening their bond. And if he carries on the game by adding that his real name is Captain Rice Crispies, the child might just get excited about the new information and will forget that he did not want to clean his room.
Parents take child discipline quite seriously, which is exactly the reason why a lot of parents fail at it. Taking the task of teaching kids right from wrong becomes something that is very heavy and very stressful. But if you use humor to play and connect with your child as you set limits and establish discipline, the entire experience will be a lot less stressful and a lot more fun.
The only way that will make child discipline effective is when a parent and child share a strong bond. That is why humor and play works - it fosters a positive relationship between the parent and the child. Keep in mind that your child revolves in a world of play and having fun; he practically lives there. So when everyone feels stressed about something that is done wrong, your child needs to play the most.
You can incorporate humor and discipline in a number of ways. If your son refuses to follow his bedtime, there are several ways that you can avoid getting into an argument.
One way is using funny voices, like talking in an opera voice when telling your kids about the rules. You can talk to your child in a silly voice using different characters. You can also try falling down or fainting, because kids find it entertaining when grownups fall down. You can even use arm wrestling and pillow fights, with your losing of course. Using humor in disciplining your kids will make learning more fun and unforgettable.
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