If there are martyrs out there who still want their wife despite the cheating and save the marriage, there are also heartless and selfish wives who don't care anymore of saving the marriage. Do you have it in you to have the ability to get over the infidelity of your wife even if she's skeptic that your marriage is worth it? There's still a possibility of keeping your marriage intact even if she's not ready to leave the "other man."
These are some thoughts you need to remember if you're wishing that possibility to come true.
1) Don't give deadlines. This is not the right time to go all authoritative on her because you're only giving your wife the reason not to choose you when she supposedly hasn't decided yet. Give her time to think rather than pressuring her and risking your marriage.
2) Compassion. It won't be a piece of cake especially because you're the one who suffered the deception. Let your wife see that you're trying your best to understand why she felt the need to cheat. Through this, she'll be seeing you in a different way and realize that you're somebody whom she shouldn't let go.
3) Take the first step in the right direction. Yes, sometimes it's really best to be the one to make the first move. This is one of those times. You want to extend the olive branch and offer the apology. Yes, it was wrong of her to cheat. But, if you are the one who wants to save this marriage, and she's still sitting on the fence, you are going to need to be the one who starts the process of compromising.
4) Set out to win her heart all over again. You won her heart once before, and you can win it again if you are committed to the cause. Be the romantic fool you were when you dated the first time around. Make her fall in love with you a second time and make it your mission in life to make her fall in love with you all over again every single day from this day forward.
5) Other man, who? Transform yourself back to the guy whom she fell in love with and turn that "other man," whom she wasn't ready to let go at first, be a thing of her dark past. That every time she remembered that time she cheated, she'd shake her head in disbelief of being that vulnerable.
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It's hard to deal with a cheating wife. It's even harder when she isn't sure what she wants. If you want to make your marriage work there's only one thing left to do:
get your wife back. Unfortunately, that may seem a lot easier said than done.
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