Have you ever noticed? There are some people who seem to
know exactly what they want and how to get it. They move
toward their targets with precision, and appear to achieve
easily without goals or planning. They have a narrowed focus
and motivation, reasons for doing what they do. They don't
even have a set of written goals, yet they move through life
attaining what they go after.
Then, there are some of us that need the strategies, the
written goals and plans of action, and great role models to
follow. Neither is good or bad, right or wrong. There are
just different needs for different people. This article is
for those of us who need the latter.
What's your dream? What goals do you have? What is it that
you absolutely must have, or do, or be?
There are two steps that are supremely important to getting
what you want in life.
Step One - Have you defined specifically what you want?
Choose a goal that inspires you to go for it, a goal so
large that when you get it, you automatically get all the
other things you want in life. Have no conflicting goals,
have all of them congruent with your definite major purpose
in life. Make the chase exciting. The momentum will
literally pull you forward to your goal. You will be on
Autopilot! One Focus To Success!
Is it a car, a boat, a house, a travel vacation, a summer
cottage, a great job, a new business, a relationship, a
close family, more friends, better health, more energy, lose
weight, run a marathon, have great clothes, make more money,
be rich, just get the bills paid every month, be debt free,
have more confidence, be happy, play pro sports, go to the
Olympics. .. You know what you want, don't you?
What do you want? Will it stretch you to capacity in order
to get it? Do you have to improve somewhere? Are you excited
about the prospect of having it in your life? Do you expect
to get it? Positive expectation is vital to the achievement
of your dream.
Do you seem overwhelmed, a little intimidated by the size of
your dream? Unsure if you can do it? Many people that have
attempted something great, have had their doubts at times.
This is when powerful emotional reasons will blow you right
on past these and enable you to take action again.
You can break it down into bite size pieces. Break it down
into small actionable steps that will incrementally bring
you to the desired outcome. Move forward daily and enjoy
each small success. Decide to persist until. .. And you
will get there! Remember that you can and you will achieve
what you want! Only the timing and the strategy may vary.
Believe and know this is true.
Step Two - Whatever it is that you want, you must want it
with all your heart. it must be your 'want,' not someone
else's. There must not be any conflicting feelings. By the
way, logical reasons are helpful, but emotional reasons are
absolutely the most powerful. If you have enough Why, the
How will take care of itself! You will move mountains to get
there.
"Your reasons why" must move you to action. It must make it
easier to go for it than not. They are what will drive you
when times get tough. Have a bunch of them! You must sell
yourself on your goals' merits. You must "fall" in love with
it. Have you been, or are you in love with someone? If so,
then you know that your mind is occupied constantly with
your love. This is the feeling you must cultivate in order
to get what you want.
You wake up thinking about it, you go to bed thinking about
it, you think about it all day, how you can do more, be
more, have more, give more, etc.
Sell yourself and Sell hard! If you can't come up with good
reasons, then make up some reasons to go forward. Act as if
and soon you will believe what you tell yourself. Your body
will become congruent with the dominant thoughts you keep in
your mind. Remember that you can only focus on one thought
at a time. Make it the one that will spur you on. You have
direct and absolute control of your thoughts, if some
negative sneaks in, feel it, evaluate it, and then move on.
These two steps in the goal making process are absolutely
vital to your successfully achieving what you want. By
spending the proper amount of time on them, you will be
light years ahead of the average person, and you will find
that getting what you want seems almost effortless. Invest
as much time as you need to crank up the desire to a white
hot, burning obsession. Do not move onto the next step until
you have powerful emotion behind your decision. You will
love the Journey. Good Luck!
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Exercise:
Clarify What You Want and Turn Up The Volume!
Take out a clean sheet of paper or use your journal if you
keep one. Pick one thing that you want to have in your life,
Start small, but make it something that up until now has
eluded your grasp. Be specific. Write it down.
Why do you want this? Write down all the reasons you want
and need this in your life. Brainstorm, write rapidly
everything that comes to your mind. You can edit later. The
more reasons you can come up with will determine to a great
extent how voraciously you go after what you want.
Keep this paper with you and review it several times each
day. Add more reasons as you come across them. Feel how
badly you want and need to have this! Think about it
constantly, and continually remind yourself that you will do
whatever it takes. Take as much time as you need to gather
as many reasons to push forward.
Then, do this exercise with another goal. Make sure that
your goals are in alignment with each other, and build
momentum when put together.
When you have enough reasons internalized and your desire
burns hot, then, and only then, move to the next step.
PLANNING
More on the "How To" later. That's a whole other story.
ABOUT THE AUTHOR: Al Smith writes for and publishes The
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