If the fish do not bite, move to more fertile waters. Often we see someone that we find attractive, and while we put on the best face we can, they are uninterested. If someone is truly interested in you, they will make that known. You will not need to continue to place yourself on Audition for the, and get no results, if someone is interested they will show it. If that person that you have you eye on isn’t taking the bait, move to where someone is.
Call it irony, call it God’s good blessing, that everyone isn’t attracted to everyone else. There will always be not so great choices, and some wonderful choices out there. Is it by design that not everyone attracts you in a romantic way, or is it just a good thing. With this in mind, you shouldn’t get discouraged when that other person isn’t interested enough in you to pursue a relationship.
So if you are extending out invitations, your phone calls aren’t being returned, and the person isn’t open to spending time with you because they are too busy, let it go. If you call people to dinner they come, and if they don’t, guess what, they aren’t hungry. You need to cut these outpourings within a reasonable time before people become uncomfortable. It isn’t about being antisocial; it is about you not wasting your time.
If people are interested, they return phone calls. They do show up when you invite them, and they do make an effort to spend time with you. Watch for these signs. Yes, some people are off to slow starts, and that’s ok; just make sure you’re getting positive feedback. If you are getting lukewarm feedback, it is time for you to rethink your position on this particular person, and see if it is a slow start, or if it is simply time to move on.
One thing to remember when you are looking for a potential partner is that you are getting positive feedback. This is in returned phone calls, they show up when you invite them, and they are willing to do their share in keeping lines of communication open. If they are doing less than that, that person isn’t as interested in you as you are in them. So before you get a lot invested into a lukewarm relationship, simply look elsewhere for that special person.
Stephanie writes many more articles at http://romancelessons.blogspot.com
She is also the editor for CopyKat recipes - you have tried it in the restaurant, now make it at home. http://www.copykat.com
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